I’m only writing a short preamble to this because, well, it’s fairly self-explanatory. If you’ve set yourself off on some sort of body transformation weight-loss, fat-loss, muscle-toning or whatever-you-want-to-call it, journey and nothing or very little is happening, chances are you’re doing some or all of these things.
So read on and see if the penny drops…
1/ Fighting and losing the willpower battle!
Stocking your cupboard full of biscuits, cakes, chocolate or whatever your poison is in the belief you can easily resist them is, quite simply, ridiculous behaviour.
If you’re carrying excess body fat, chances are you got it by eating all the above on a regular basis. So why put yourself through the misery of knowing that they are just feet away?
Ladies, you do not get any prizes for willpower. All this behaviour does is make you focus on all the things you have to give up, instead of what you have to gain.
I’m going to be honest, even as I’ve just written that, my subconscious has given me a great big elbow to the ribs and whispered in my ear that there’s a box of Lindor in the house that someone bought my other half for his birthday last week. That’s how our brains work. They don’t care about us looking good in our bikini in six weeks. They care about keeping you alive, safe and instantly gratified. If you want to eat those bad carbs, your brain will be your biggest ally – until five minutes after you’ve stuffed your faces with them. At that point, your mind will serve you up a mammoth portion of guilt.
Moral of the story is, if you don’t have it in the house you can’t eat it.
Oh, and before you start telling me – and yourself – that you have to have that stuff in for the children, that’s a blag and you know it! Your kids do not need to stuff themselves with sugar every day to be happy. And they probably wouldn’t want to if you led them by example. This may sound harsh, but your children are supposed to be your most prized possession. And if that is really true, why would you fill them up with sugar and processed food? If you are someone who has spent a lot of her life overweight and miserable because of it, always drifting from one diet to another, do you want really want your children to be subjected to that too?
The truth is, you have to stop buying that stuff so that you are forced to find something else to do with your time other than bite your nails to the knuckles to distract you from running amok with a family size bag of Cadbury’s miniatures. If you are really serious about getting in shape, go into your kitchen now, take a bin bag and throw everything into it that you know can derail you in the blink of an eye. Then chuck it out. When it’s gone, it’s gone!
2/ Trying to do it yourself!
Let me put this into perspective, if your washing machine breaks down today will you throw on a pair of overalls, get behind it and do that sharp intake of breath thing that all engineers do?No, you will find someone who knows how to fix washing machines. Call him out, pay him and hopefully be back up and running with the minimum amount of stress. You will do this because you probably know nothing about washing machines and you need an expert. If you did try to fix it, you would just get frustrated and annoyed and possibly break something.
Exactly the same thing is true of your health and fitness. Chances are, you want to lose fat, get a nice bit of shape to your muscles and feel good. But the reality is, you actually haven’t got a clue where to start. Going back to our washing machine analogy, you will probably do a little bit of exercise badly, maybe even pull something, get frustrated, give up and tell people: “Exercise doesn’t work for me.”
There is a very simple way to avoid this scenario. Find a programme that promises to help you achieve what it is you want and invest in it. And before you baulk about spending the money, be honest, you wouldn’t think twice about splashing out on a new pair of shoes or a curly blow once a week. Why should you hesitate to invest money in something that will bring you the body you want and the happiness, confidence and sexiness that comes with it.
3/ Eating way too much fruit!
As a rule, people get really upset when I talk about the fact that eating fruit all day is not good for you if you want fat loss. So, before you start sending me hate mail let me just clarify, I am not saying fruit is bad for you per se. Fruit obviously contains a lot of nutrients that the body needs, But the truth is, that unless you are an athlete or someone who trains about 16 hours a week, too much fruit can make you fat because you are not using that energy. And you can get all the same nutrients from vegetables.
We were never designed to munch on fruit all day long, all year long.
Fruit is actually nature’s sweeties. In lean times before air freight meant we could get it 12 months of the year, we ate fruit to gain body fat to see us over the scarcity of the winter.
Fruit is sugar and the body treats it the same way. Your blood sugar or glucose goes up, your insulin levels raise in order to open the door to the liver and muscles where this blood sugar can be stored as glycogen until your body needs it. But once the liver and muscles are full of glycogen, your body will store the excess as fat. So, if you are doing a sedentary job, filling your face full of fruit every hour on the hour, without having any real need to tap into that glycogen for energy, what do you think is going to happen? Yep, those fat stores will keep spilling over and you will struggle to lose fat. If you really want fruit, stick to a small portion of berries and eat it after training.
4/ Having no-one “in your corner”!
When you are trying to lose weight, become healthier and make big and often scary changes to the way you live your life, having like-minded people to lean on can be the difference between going the distance or giving up…again.
It’s nice to have to someone to talk to who has been where you are now, understands your struggles and frustrations and can inspire you to great results. In time, it’s also nice to become an inspiration to those women coming up behind you.
With the best will in the world, your other half is probably not all that interested in hearing how your jeans fit you comfortably again or how you managed to do full press ups for your entire workout for the first time ever.
And if you’re having an off day when you are struggling with motivation, he will probably think he’s doing the right thing by cheering you up with a box of chocolates. Sometimes our partners can be the biggest obstacles to our success. Perhaps they resist your healthy diet changes or throw a spanner in the works by insisting on a Saturday night takeaway.
But if you have a support network of women just like you to turn to, to bolster you when you’re struggling or boast to when you’ve dropped a dress size, it can make all the difference. Most of the women who have done well in my group training programme credit the camaraderie, support and friendship they’ve received in their private forum as playing a massive part in their success. When I worked in an office, I used to scoff at the old acronym, TEAM. But it is true. Together Everyone Achieves More. I’ve seen it myself.
If you are interested in trying a programme full of women just like you, my next group training programme camp starts Monday April 27 at two venues, Calderstones Park and Bodytorque Gym in Liverpool.
Just click here, fill out the form and and I’ll be in touch with all the details.